Have you ever come across people who do nothing but find fault in every single person they see in the streets?
Trust me, I personally know one.
Instead of correcting herself, she tries to correct me and the people around her. I am not perfect and Alhamdulillah, I take in criticism and advices or comments graciously and if these advices/comments will make me a better person that I'll follow them.
But, how do you know if you're approaching someone with the niah to give advice the right way?
I know a sister who simply loves to pick on the flaws of others and even if the person has no particular mistake then she looks for one. Astaghfirullah.
I call her the Haram Police.
I don't believe in looking for the mistakes of others but then again if I do spot one in a Muslim and it's a major one, I'll find a way to bring a message across and tell that person why what he/she is doing is Haram. I am no scholar but when I say something is wrong; my sources are the Qur'an and the Hadith.
This Haram police sister I know is somewhat related to me & because she's an elder, I find it difficult sometimes to advice her because for sure she'll rebutt with this;
"Look, who's elder you or me? Shouldn't I know better?"
The thing is if the mistakes that she's pointing out about people are what she herself doesn't commit then it's fine but there are certain things that even she's commiting yet she doesn't see herself doing it rather she sees it in another person.
In fact it's not just her. I know a handful of Muslims who choose to waste just so much time assuming the worst of others and instead of giving you the benefit of the doubt they throw you false accusations; without evidence that is.
The truly pious are those who see the best in everyone because when you don't see yourself as the perfect one, you constantly open up your hearts and minds to advices that'll make you a better person.
If you do see someone doing something wrong and you wish to correct them, do it the right way instead of screaming "Haram!" or start backbiting about the bad of that person.
No matter how successful or amazing you are, you have faults in yourself; just like anyone else has.
Just in case you forgot, no one is perfect.
Allahu A3lam.
-A'qilah Saiere-
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5 comments:
Asalaamu `alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato
Bismillah-
This happened to me recently and I wanna believe the Sister's intention was pure but I keep getting bad vibes like she is hating on me or something. I dunno... Whatever :-D
Allah Al-Musta`an
to Aalia walaykum assalaam
awww subhana'Allah... it sucks when that happens aint it. sheeesh loool whatever it iss sis! :)
A'qilah
i kinda wish to have someone be the haram police for me lol. to correct me when im wrong to remind me of the important things when im deviating. but it is cool when that person is sincere and is applyying what he is sayin to himself too. not hypocrites and badmouthers who just want to bring you down or whatev
to Habibti
lol yeah if in that sense that i'd love to have one for myself too but otherwise, no thanks ;)
A'qilah
when you put your life out there for everyone to read/look at you should expect 'haram police.'
if you don't want to be called out then don't put your life out in the open.
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