I haven't attended a single wedding for like almost 2 years now. The last time I did, I had no choice. It was my cousin's wedding.
I know I sound like a sour grape, a wet blanket because weddings are such glorious and joyous celebrations mashaAllah but weddings are also the one point of time where you meet your other half of the extended family (yes, the ones that you probably only see during eid or well... once a year where there happen to be a death in the family.) and all they'll bother asking you is how well you're doing in school.
This is when the parents will sit down with us the children by their sides, talking about the best universities in the world and how just amazingly wonderful their own children are. Okay seriously, we're at a wedding not a university conference. If everyone's going to just go on gloating about their children, who's going to pay attention to the newly wed couple?!
Another reason why I hate attending weddings is because all I hear are gossips. All you have to do is sit down beside a sister whom you've never met before and trust me, the next minute you know every dirty little secret about her neighbour.
Astaghfirullah!
I have to admit that I can be a pretty big fan of gossips too because at the end of the day, I'm only human but seriously, a wedding is supposed to be a celebration that's full of blessings, full of rahmah and barakah and all you find is people who are talking about other people.
I can't even find myself sitting down to enjoy a plate of briyani in peace.
The next time I attend a wedding (which will be in December inshaAllah), I'll make sure I bring along my tasbih - so I can istighfar everytime I hear someone talking about someone else.
Or better, I'll put up a sign to say "You can speak about her but just remember, it's Haram"
A'qilah Saiere.
5 comments:
LOL @ university conference!
Love the humour.
You should wear a T-shirt that says ""You can speak about her but just remember, it's Haram" lol.
Ahhh I dont even remember the last time I went to one (that wasn't my family's). Alhamdulilah.
LOL, my mom doesn't even let me go to weddings.. saying that she doesn't want the 'bad influence' on me.. -sigh- But I do think you should speak up when people gossip around you! : D
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Lol ukhti! Count with your fingers for they are better. People won't easily know that you're secretly doing a good deed every second. Hehehe. :P
I don't have that much of a problem with gossiping because that doesn't happen with me much. What I hate most is the loud music being played. People won't even be able to gossip with the speakers screeching at the audience!
I learned that I should still attend because I could give da'wah at the same time. I do this by going in, eat quickly and go out, and if I'm asked why I do this I tell them the ruling of playing music.
Every time my mum asks whether I'm free to attend a wedding, I first ask whether music is being played to show how serious I am in this matter. We shouldn't take Allah's orders lightly. If she says yes, then I would tell her that I will eat little and quickly wait in the car.
Muslimah - :P lol
Here and there - i love your teeshirt idea!
Modest Justive - :
LOL habibty, it's a good thing, trust me :P
Adib
Awww mashaAllah :) Allah ma'ana :)
Yeah imma count with the fingers! :P
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