Are you setting your priorities right?

Marriage is a sacred union between two people that is seen as a fundamental building unit for the Muslim community. It is highly encouraged and is even classified as half of one's deen. It is also the Sunnah of the Prophet (sallahu 'alayhi wasalam).

Sadly though, the entire idea of marriage has been materialised from a union where two people start to build their lives together to have their own families to celebrations that cost a bomb where the groom eventually leaves the ceremony with a burnt pocket. (well at least, that is how it's like where I live) People spend their entire lives working their butts off just so they can build up their money in the bank to throw an extravagant ceremony where thousands of dollars are spent on food, decoration and music that blasts right through everybody's ears. Don't get me wrong, I love how celebratory and grand some weddings can get, mashaAllah. It makes you really happy to be present to glorify the union of two souls.

What I'm saying is, these people spend all their lives trying to save up for their dream weddings to please the people in their community and then forget about the preparations they OUGHT to make before building a home together. Especially the brothers. They spend their days working and nights working even more just to get sufficient money but do they spend enough time learning about the adaab of running a family? Does he spend enough time fixing his tajweed so he can get his recitation of the Qur'an right? Does he spend enough time to learn about the rulings in fiqh so that he may teach his wife and children later on?

Does she spend enough time learning how to be a good wife in Islam? Does she spend enough time reading about the wives of the prophet (sallahu 'alayhi wasalam) so that she may take into example their deeds?

The question is, do you spend enough time taking care of your other half of the deen before you complete the next half or are you spending the entire time you have before you sit down for your nikaah slogging your butt off to build up your bank account?

Are you setting your priorities right?

A'qilah Saiere.